All posts tagged "deb_toering"

  • Deb Toering, LPC, NCC, BCPCC

    Hope, healing, wholeness. This is what we all want. But instead we sometimes feel despair, broken, and alone. We long to feel loved and understood. But often that doesn’t happen. Something has gone wrong. Life is not...

    • Posted April 24, 2016
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    Just One Thing Can Change Everything

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC A question I often ask couples is, “What one thing could the other do to make you feel more loved?” I will hear things such as, “hug and kiss me when I...

    • Posted April 10, 2016
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    I’ll Get to That Tomorrow…

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC Putting off the difficult things is something we all do. For some, it is a regular cycle of defeat and shame, negatively affecting relationships, work, finances, physical and mental health. “Lazy” or...

    • Posted March 12, 2016
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    “Just Try Harder”

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC Is this something you remember hearing as a kid? Or maybe it was, “Why can’t you be more organized like your sister?” “Pay attention” is probably another one you may have heard....

    • Posted January 23, 2016
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    Who Am I, Really?

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC Who or what has defined you? Was it that bully in 6th grade who told you that you were ugly, fat or stupid? Was it your dad, with so many struggles of...

    • Posted November 15, 2015
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    Is Anyone Listening?

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC A familiar quote says, “God gave us mouths that close and ears that don’t for a reason.” One of the greatest blessings in life is just to have someone listen to us—really...

    • Posted October 11, 2015
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    Letting Go

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC How did this happen so fast? Tomorrow you will take your daughter to college. “Wait! Please, could we have just a little more time? One more lunch together? Just one more late...

    • Posted August 30, 2015
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  • words that breathe life
    Words that Breathe Life

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC Some words we speak bring life to others: they encourage, motivate, express love, affirm and convey confidence. Other words seem to suck life out of us: they discourage, cause us to feel...

    • Posted August 9, 2015
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    The Speck that Infects a Relationship

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC We can easily justify our own bad behavior by focusing more on the hurtful things our partner does or doesn’t do than on our own wrongdoing. We believe we have the right...

    • Posted June 14, 2015
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    How Can I Stop Worrying?

    by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC From a human perspective, we have much to feel anxious about. Can we pay our bills?  What will be the result of that last medical test?  Can I forgive someone who hurt...

    • Posted May 17, 2015
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